This isn’t really a surprising question because I’ve always had a checklist for the kind of man I need; plus I believe so much in writing down the vision because that is when it will actually be fulfilled, if it isn’t written down, it’s probably just a passing philosophy. There’s a reason why Aristotle, Socrates, Plato and Shakespeare have something on us. Their words of poetic wisdom were written down and serves us a lot today.
Here are the five most important thing to me in a future mate:
♥ Godly: I love to be married to an unconventional Christian ( a lot of people don’t like to use the Christian but I deem it so because that is our citizenship in Christ, will Nigerians or Americans say they don’t want to be referred to as such because some people bastardise the country; so yeah a Christ ian – follower of Christ). Unconventional in the sense that He is not caught up in the hoolabaloo of religion; and He is not afraid to let God use him, a person who loves God passionately and his principles reside in God – a man who sees God as His head and himself as my spiritual head, a man who loves me as his own body as Christ loves the Church and gave himself for them and realises that God should come first in my life irrespective of him.
♥ Emotionally available: I need a man who is in tune with himself and me, who understands we are one and loves me according to 1 Cor 13; a kind man who I can willingly submit to and exercises the fruit of the spirit, a man who understands my love language and I, his. A person given to change and listens to corrections and me. A man who loves to forgive and let’s it go and pampers me silly.
♥ Domesticated: Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I want to be lazy or anything but I have understood that sometimes as a woman, you are not always available to meet domestic needs e.g. When pregnant, during delivery or travel for business and then it hit me “who will take care of the home and the children while I’m gone”? That is why this is so important, a domesticated man will understand what it means for the house to be kept clean, take care of the children, cook especially when his wife is not around. I long for all these and more.
♥ Wealthy: Money is an important factor in any relationship, it doesn’t make me a gold digger. I just need to know he thinks wealth and makes wealth – of course there may be rough times and during those times I will stand by my man but despite it, we should be able to get back on our feet irrespective. A person who has a rich and large heart and is wealthy in spirit and his soul prospers.
♥The Y-factor: lol, this means I am sexually attracted to him. A person who makes my blood hot just by looking at me, who knows how to treat me in and out of the bedroom. An outgoing man who is a conversation starter, who I’m attracted to his intellect and who can teach me, he treats me like a lady and respects me, opens the car door etc. Yes o, it still exists and won’t see it as a burden. A person who knows how to behave, talk when it is time and keeps quiet when it is time. A timely man.
I know this may seem like a far off deal but as a man thinks in his heart so is he. I know I can get all these and I’m not building castles in the air because God’s blessings makes rich and adds no sorrow. So I trust my man with these qualities will find me.
What’s in it for him – well, he’ll be my lord, I will submit to him and I will be his Proverbs 31 woman.
So there you have it! see you on Day 9. Express you in the comment box.
Stay in God. Peace, love, bisou bisou
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