JOURS CINQ: The biggest misconception you think people have about single life

Day 4

This is a funny one (lol) because I grew up in misconception; with a mum that got ingrained in the Yoruba culture and married quite early, I heard things like “Oun shako, o ko ni ri oko fe” or “awon egbe e lo ti loko yen, kilon se” and the crowning glory was “O ti’n gbe raga ju”

Most times, I would scream just for her to leave me alone – sigh, it was tasking. There’s a myth especially in the Nigerian society that when a lady gets to a certain age, she’s getting too old for marriage and she would have to do certain things to ensure she got a man.

One of the many challenges I face stem from this environmental analogy till I decided that in whatever case, I am an exception to any rule – I say this to myself constantly and it really works for me + I have so many friends that are single and well beyond the “marriageable” age and are loving it; watching them be in relationships without the pressure of marriage/out of it and happy made my confidence soar.

When I am ready, I decide and my mum and everyone around me has to come to terms with that. My younger sister will probably get hitched before me and I’ll have no qualms with that.
If a single lady is too spirited, you hear comments like “maybe, she’s a ‘runs’ girl” especially if she’s doing well for herself.

But I’m glad that the society is getting enlightened, gone are the days when the fact that a lady lived alone or owned a car earned her automatic disqualification from the marriage clique; it is  relatively better or maybe it has to do with the fact that I move with enlightened people but I’m aware that the misconceptions are slowly lifting. I get so tired of hearing “go and get married, you’re getting old” like a man will magically appear and I should resist the urge to even evaluate him.

I don’t rush through life, that will be the very death of me; besides I’m one of the happily single spinsters or is it bachelorettes out there.

TRANSLATIONS
“Oun shako, o ko ni ri oko fe” (If you’re being choosy, you won’t get a husband)
“awon egbe e lo ti loko yen, kilon se” (your mates are married, what’s wrong with you?)
“O ti’n gbe raga ju” (you’re becoming too proud)
Runs girl (classy prostitute)

So there’s my answer, see you on Day 6. Express you in the comment box.
Stay in God. Peace, love, bisou bisou

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