TAKE MY (WO)MAN, I TAKE YOURS

Lol. I know I got some of you with the title, it’s funny yeah? Err… or maybe not, but who knows this might turn out to be an interesting take on things.
The idea for this came as I was washing, yes I left clothes still in their bubbly soapy state in the bath tub to come write this. That’s the thing with ideas, when they come you might have to drop every other thing to attend to it else the opportunity may just slip up.
Recently, I had begun to worry about the issue of inter-tribal marriages, most times I accuse my friends of other ethnicity of coming to steal ‘our’ Yoruba men and complaining of the short supply of good Yoruba men these days (Well, blame the parents – most of them are  tribalists) and if you bring men/women of other ethnic groups home. Ah! “Bringing down the house PART 2”. Most times the issue drags on for days as the so called uncles you may not have heard of in years start declaring taboos and abominations.
Looking on the pros though, it is a good thing a large number of the young generation is becoming sensitised about tribe not being a  determinant in how great an individual will be as a prospective partner. You now find young children of these days bearing names like – Idechi Rotimi without people gathering round to ask how come. Back in my primary school days, when you hear mixed names from an individual, you likened the person to a foreigner – a reverence of some sort which on the negative end puts them in awkward positions not just for the child but the parents too; because the children now go home to ask their parents awkward questions.
Also, it shows that the mentality that comes with a particular tribe is slowing disintegrating, that’s a breath of fresh minty  air (who doesn’t like mint ey).
Weighing the cons however, the question now is “who teaches the children?” There was a case of some little children from my neighbourhood who claimed their mother’s state (somewhere in the Riverines) while their dad was an Igbo person. Do tribal marriages lead to cases of possessiveness for one partner alone? I think it will make the children confused and learning to play politics from a very young age especially in cases where partners don’t agree about up bringing; which I think is very unhealthy.
Another consideration is the issue of the language that the child should be taught, most people just indulge in speaking a borrowed language instead of the mother tongue from the respective parents.
Then in-law interference which makes life unbearable for one spouse or the other as the case permits.
To round off, I think this can be fostered to be a way of creating healthy interaction for the next generation and it breeds unity, already the children are given the privilege of learning two languages right from the home front, it allows them broaden their scope of knowledge, and integrates them into the society by establishing healthy and safe relationships among their peers which leaves them free of bias.
I think I’ll leave it here before I make it a thesis. You all are free to make your research too, my findings brought me these.

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