INDISCIPLINE

I am not disciplined when it comes to saving, like I can have money in my account that I termed savings, all of sudden a friend needs and I go wham, withdraw all and leave nothing – most times I’m done before I realise what I’ve done. My dad says giving is good but the fact that I can give even when I don’t have is excessive.
Going through my life this way and finding out that I find myself in a fix most times because I couldn’t save because of a need, has always had me seeking solutions to my give away attitude. If not for God, I will be stranded most times and you know the funny thing – I hate to ask, even if I’m down to my last kobo, I’ll prefer to trek all the way than ask for money to save my legs. I just can’t do it.
Now, linking to my emotional life, you know as human beings whether we want to or not, every time we make contact with another being, we each have opened an E.B.A (EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT) and suffice it to say that I operate my EBA like my normal account. Checking or savings – I can deposit into someone’s life and then make a large withdrawal on behalf of another leaving one person empty and devoid of any emotion for me. It has cost me a lot of times because I am left stranded especially since I still want need that individual.
So, how do I tackle this problem? I have decided to start saving excessively without withdrawals and by the time I need to get my resources back, the account will understand that I’m not leaving it dormant.  Just thought to share this. Makes my weight lighter.

P.S: I may not be such an authority on this subject, more research is advised.
For those who do not understand the concept of E.B.A, here:
The EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT like the normal savings/checking that is opened in the bank for your monetary resources; is opened when you meet someone for the very first time. It takes account of monetary, time and other emotionally linked resources. You can keep making payments through love languages, without withdrawing – that earns you a lifetime investment; but when you keep withdrawing, you go into debit and unlike a physical account that can sometimes be redeemed, this may lead to emotional bankruptcy. For both parties though, the account should always be active. The day you need to make a large withdrawal, the person may give an understanding approval.
For Men, it’s easy to make a large emotional investment at a particular time depending on duration and special time fixtures e.g. birthdays, anniversaries, promotions etc.
For women though, daily investment is advised e.g. compliments, little or big gifts etc. 
You get the concept? Cool.

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